I Am (Not) A Special Snowflake

The quickest way to a person's heart is through the feels that we all share. Nah, I'm just messin with ya. It's actually through their chest cavity. Anatomy aside, humans are an interesting bunch because of how similar we are. It's temping to have a delusional, optimistic view of reality that says "Everyone is unique and that's what makes life wonderful". Ultimately we're all as different as we can possible be given our DNA and rather limited experiences. The vast majority of individuals are similar in any number of ways. The means we employ to survive, to carry out our daily responsibilities to society, and the subjects of our attention are so linear and predictable that we have an entire branch of science built around it: psychology. If we were truly as unique as some would lead us to believe, it would be almost impossible to describe the human mind with descriptions that are anything more than vast generalizations.

Behavior might not be magnificently diverse, but I don't mean to label it as limited or lacking. While Psychologists (or very attentive individuals) can often pair behavior and motivation with great accuracy; they aren't mind readers. Nobody is. Sometimes actions and reasons aren't even correlated. Not everyone thinks rationally, and not everyone uses the same system of logic to come to conclusions. These people show their differences in the things they say and do. They separate themselves from the pack by being vocal about their uniqueness. Still...they aren't different enough.

Feels are important. Making connections are important. Realizing that others share your feels can be both a relief and a wake-up call. You'll realize how similar you are, and that you're not alone. You'll realize how generic you are, and that you're not a special snowflake. It's not easy being you, is it? It's not easy being anyone else either. The human experience is one that is surprisingly complex, but not as varied as you might think. We are constrained by the constants of our existence, which is actually much more simple than it sounds. You can't be as different or unique as you want to be, because you're still a human on this planet. There are rules that you have to follow, and despite everything you are not capable of changing those facts. You cannot advance past the boundaries of your biology quite yet.